Friendships: What They Mean To Us

 

         I'm working through a bible study on friendships.  God built us for community and one of those is the community of friendship. According to Wikipedia, friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people. It is a stronger form of interpersonal bond than an association.  "True friendships are hallmarked by each member's desire to engage with the other - it's about mutual interest in one another's experiences and thoughts, as well as a sense of 'belongingness' and connection , Friendships require reciprocity - of admiration, respect, trust, and emotional and instrumental support."

      What are some words that describe a good, healthy friendship? Affable, affectionate, amiable, amicable, attentive, available, believable, brave, caring, cheerful, considerate, cordial, discerning, easygoing, empathetic, faithful, forgiving, funny, generous, gentle, giving, good listener, heartfelt, honest, humorous, intentional, jovial, just, manageable, meaningful, nice, open minded, polite, pleasing, respectful, reachable, sincere, simple, teachable, trustworthy, valued, vulnerable, worthy, yielding, and zany.   Not every friendship includes all of these descriptions, but they are a list of possiblities to strive towards.

      What are some barriers we face in finding or holding on to good friendships?  Being truly known for who we are and risking being rejected or unloved, Risk of being hurt because we are sinners, Transparency in deeper relationships opens us up for more vulnerability, Being less alone can be difficult but also good for our souls.

John 15:14-15  "You are my friends if you do what I command.  I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you."

"Sin demands to have a man by himself.  It withdraws him from the community.  The more isolated a person is, the more destructive will be the power of sin over him."  Life Together by Dietrich Bonhoeffer

        Friendship is scary but it is wort the risk.  Isolation is riskier and that is where the enemy wants for us because it is easier for him to destroy us with negative thoughts and lies.  Join me in the coming blogs and learn more about what true friendships mean for us and our lives. 

 

Encouragement for Today

 

        Today's blog is a combination of encouraging finds that have lifted me up in some way over the past few weeks.  I hope that your heart is encouraged because we are all either in a storm that is testing us, or are about to be in a storm that we don't expect, or have just weathered a storm and can see God's faithfulness once again.

       From Louie Giglio.."I wait for the Lord to help me. I trust His word. — Psalm 130:5

The seahorse is a tiny fish that lives in the oceans.  It’s called a seahorse because its head looks like the head of — you guessed it — a tiny horse. This unusual creature often swims with another seahorse, and they link their tails to stay together. It also swims “standing up” and tries to blend in with nearby plants so it doesn’t get eaten. Because of its body shape, the seahorse isn’t a very good swimmer. So rather than go out hunting for food, seahorses use their tails like anchors, holding on to a piece of sea grass or coral. They then wait for food — plankton and tiny crustaceans — to drift by so they can suck it up with their long snouts.  With its poor swimming and its tendency to stay in one spot, the seahorse isn’t going to win any races. But God has given it everything it needs: a way to get food, someone to swim through life with, and something to hold on to. God promises the same to you. The Bible says, 

God will use His wonderful riches in Christ Jesus to give you everything you need. — Philippians 4:19 

God provides you with food and shelter, Jesus to swim through life with, and the promises of His Word to hold on to. Like the seahorse, you may sometimes have to hold on and wait for God to deliver His promises — but He always will, and at just the perfect time.

Help me, Lord, to wait for Your perfect timing. And while I wait, teach me to live the way You want me to. I will follow You!

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Another from Louie Giglio..."If God is for us, who can be against us? — Romans 8:31

 

The question is not simply, “Who can be against us?” You could answer that one. Who is against you? Disease, inflation, corruption, exhaustion. Calamities confront, and fears imprison. Were Paul’s question, “Who can be against us?” we could list our foes much easier than we could fight them. But that is not the question. The question is, If GOD is for us, who can be against us?

 

Indulge me for a moment. Four words in this verse deserve your attention. Read slowly the phrase, “God is for us.” Please pause for a minute before you continue. Read it again, aloud. (My apologies to the person next to you.) God is for us. Repeat the phrase four times, this time emphasizing each word. (Come on, you’re not in that big of a hurry.)

 

God is for us.

 

God is for us.

 

God is for us.

 

God is for us.

 

God is for you. Your parents may have forgotten you, your teachers may have neglected you, your siblings may be ashamed of you, but within reach of your prayers is the Maker of the oceans. God!

 

God is for you. Not “may be,” not “has been,” not “was,” not “would be,” but “God is!” He is for you. Today. At this hour. At this minute. As you read this sentence. No need to wait in line or come back tomorrow. He is with you. He could not be closer than He is at this second. His loyalty won’t increase if you are better nor lessen if you are worse. He is for you.

 

God is for you. Turn to the sidelines; that’s God cheering your run. Look past the finish line; that’s God applauding your steps. Listen for Him in the bleachers, shouting your name. Too tired to continue? He’ll carry you. Too discouraged to fight? He’s picking you up. God is for you.

 

God is for you. Had he a calendar, your birthday would be circled. If he drove a car, your name would be on his bumper. If there’s a tree in heaven, he’s carved your name in the bark. We know He has a tattoo, and we know what it says.

 

‘I have engraved you on the palms of my hands,” He declares. — Isaiah 49:16

 

God is with you. Knowing that, who is against you? Can death harm you now? Can disease rob your life? Can your purpose be taken or your value diminished? No. Though hell itself may set itself against you, no one can defeat you. You are protected. God is with you.

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“Give ear to my words, O Lord.
Consider my meditation.
Harken unto the voice of my cry,
My King and my God.
For unto Thee will I pray
My voice shalt Thou hear in the morning.
O Lord, in the morning
Will I direct my prayer
Unto Thee and will look up.” Psalm 5:1-3

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From Lysa Terkeurst..."Bad things happen. Evil occurs. Tragedies crash in. At least for me and maybe for you, too, when suffering thrusts me to my knees, when the enemy causes me to be hemmed in on every side, when temptation comes, when false accusations arise, these questions start to percolate…

What’s going on in my heart?
What’s in my head?
What do I truly believe?
Where do I put my trust?
Where is my security?
What is coming out of my mouth?
What is coming out in my actions?
What is my steadfast determination?

I don’t want to stumble, or waver, or recede in my faith when storms rage and I bet you don’t either. We don’t want to wobble and get lured in temptation because it’ll just make things so very much worse.

Then, after desire has conceived it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. — James 1:15

Jesus redirects the temptation of the enemy with the Word of God.  In those shaken, or grief-stricken, or confused, or tempted places, we need the Word of God. Jesus was our example for this. We need to read the Word, know the Word, speak the Word, and let it permeate our lives and our choices.  If we aren’t digging deep to seek the source of Living Water, to seek the Word of God for ourselves, we will not have the grounding necessary to stand strong when the world’s ways try to pull us down. 

We long for what we look at and linger on. We steer where we stare. Where is that? What’s the focus? Is it on the One who loves us the most?

Worship the Lord your God and serve Him only. — Matthew 4:10

Doubts are normal, disappointment is expected, questions and worries are par for the course. But, in that crux of temptation, we must stay connected to the Word of God. Talk back to temptation using God’s own Words. Lean on God with all our strength. Use Scripture to speak to our thinking, doubt our doubts, and be renewed in our minds.

God knows best. He can be trusted. Seek Him. And, stay with Him.

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Notes that caught my attention...

"Fear is evidence of an eroded trust in God."  As for myself, I never want others to see me as not fully trusting God, but to only see my fears as my lack of patience.  I want to see my fears as room for growth and that God is still working on me.

2 Corinthians 4:15-17  "All this is for your benefit, so that the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to overflow to the glory of God. Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.  For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all."

As for myself, I need to consider what's really on my heart.  Not if, but since God is working for my good, why am I not counting all of this joy?

Kingdom minded means there is a purpose for my pain on this side of eternity.

As for myself, I need to be as willing to suffer for God's purposes, as Jesus was for me.

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I hope and pray that you've been encouraged today for God's plan for you.

Not My Will, But God's Will Be Done

Revelation 21:4  "‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”


         I have continued on in my bible study by Lysa Terkeurst called "It's Not Supposed To Be This Way"..finding unexpected strength when disappointments leave you shattered.   This week is about living between the two gardens of Eden..from Eden in Genesis to Eden restored in Revelation 22.  This in between time is the life we are living now which includes anxiety, disappointments and sadness.  We are not in the perfect times which God first made, until sin entered, nor the time to come that God has planned to come.  We are in the hard, difficult days where our trust in Jesus is fully tested.  So where do we begin?

Start with what you know is true. 

         As believers, we know God is good. God loves me.  God has an unfailing love for us.  God will never forsake us.  God is steadfast in his love and care for us. God never lies.  God knew us before He created us in the womb.  God has a purpose for us, the pain, and the joys in this life.

      Hebrews 2:14-15, 17-18   "Since the children have flesh and blood, he too shared in their humanity so that by his death he might break the power of him who holds the power of death—that is, the devil—  and free those who all their lives were held in slavery by their fear of death." "For this reason he had to be made like them, fully human in every way, in order that he might become a merciful and faithful high priest in service to God, and that he might make atonement for the sins of the people.  Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted."

       "He became man that he might die; as God he could not die, and therefore he assumed another nature and state. Here the wonderful love of God appeared, that, when Christ knew what he must suffer in our nature, and how he must die in it, yet he so readily took it upon him."  [M. Henry]

Turn your eyes upon Jesus. 

          We must look to Jesus, as our example, especially when we are hurting and discouraged.  He felt the same pain and sorrow, as we do.  There is nothing we have felt in this world that he hasn't.  Mark 15:23  "Then they offered him wine mixed with myrrh, but he did not take it."  D.A. Carson says "The 'wine mixed with myrrh' was a sedative that was intended to dull the pain and agony but Jesus refused to drink it."  "Jesus would feel all the pain so he could, on the cross, heal all the pain." [L. Terkeurst]

       Hebrews 3:1  "Therefore, holy brothers and sisters, who share in the heavenly calling, fix your thoughts on Jesus, whom we acknowledge as our apostle and high priest."

       Hebrews 5:7-9  "During the days of Jesus’ life on earth, he offered up prayers and petitions with fervent cries and tears to the one who could save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission.  Son though he was, he learned obedience from what he suffered and, once made perfect, he became the source of eternal salvation for all who obey him." 

       God chose to become man, as Jesus, and we can trust him to completely understand all of our hurts. Jesus learned thru his suffering and obedience that matured over time---and we can too.  Luke 2:52  "And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man."  "It is through the suffering that we are experiencing now that we will develop a perseverance to carry us forward then in what God sees coming our way."  [L. Terkeurst]

Trading our will for God's will.

Mark 14:36  "Yet not what I will, but what you will."

       "Where do I struggle trading my will for god's will?  We assume that we know what a good god should do. ..we make suggestions, felt stressed, anxious, talked w/others
but have you prayed w/a posture of humility?  You trade your will for his b/c you know he works all things out for good for those that love him.  We often say 'god bless this but don't mess with this.'"  [L. Terkeurst]

Matthew 6:10  "Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven"....how Jesus taught us to pray.   May we always align our will with God's plan for us, even when it's not easy.  

        As for myself, the devil has tried to fill my mind with negativity, lies, and twisted thoughts.  So, this blog is written especially for me and anyone else who feels the same.  I feel like I'm being tested as I've gone through many different kinds of trials lately.  I've been sick and now well; been through the loss of a longtime, great aide; dealing with isolation; and definitely trying to accept God's will for me.
        So,  'Start with what you know is true'..I know that God's love for me hasn't changed and that He will work things for my good, as always.  My doubts and fears may try to get a foothold, but it's only temporary.  God grants me new mercies each and every day.  His hold on me is never any less.  Then,  'Turn your eyes upon Jesus' ..I have found great comfort in the verses friends have sent.  His Word is how I am reminded of who he is.  His Word is what destroys the lies that the devil plants in my head.  Lastly, and the hardest,  'Trading our will for God's will'.. I am not the one who gets to choose my life for me, thank goodness, or I'd been in the ditch a long time ago.  I have to understand that my suffering is purposeful to me and many others.  My aides are learning the gift of service in good times and bad.  My friends are learning that suffering isn't always so bad, there are joyful times.  Everyone in my life are witnesses to the strength of God's hand on me and what he has pulled me through time and time again.  God's will for me is to turn to Him as I suffer and obey till His Kingdom come.

2 Questions To Ponder

         I have started a bible study by Lysa Terkeurst called "It's Not Supposed To Be This Way"..finding unexpected strength when disappointments leave you shattered.  I don't know what you are dealing with in life right now, but there has never been a bible study that has screamed at me like this before.  Now, I have only just begun and finished Session 1.  I want to share with you two questions that God asked Eve and Adam.

     "Where are you?"
        This is the first question asked by God in the bible.  This wasn't a question about physical location but of spiritual oneness with Him.  God is reminding them that by their sin, they are the ones that walked away, but He is still there.  "Where is your orientation, as it relates to Me" is what God is asking them.  God wants us to come to Him, because he has what we need in every situation and circumstance.  
       "The question was for their benefit. God was essentially asking, “You disobeyed me; how is that working out for you? Did things turn out like you wanted or how I predicted?” The question also shows the heart of God, which is the heart of a shepherd seeking out the lost lambs in order to bring them into the fold. Jesus would later come “to seek and to save the lost” "  [gotquestions.org]
        So, how does this question relate to us?  We often feel lost, broken and without help but our feelings aren't our truths.  Feelings come and go, they change with the circumstance that we are in for the moment.  God says "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."   We need reminded that the world will disappoint and walk away, but God is faithful, ever present with us and will never forsake us.

     "Who told you that you were naked?"
        Who told you that in your naked form, you were anything less than the beautiful creation that God made you to be?  Who is throwing accusations at you that would cause you to feel guilt and shame and want to hide from God?  The serpent coaxed them into thinking they weren't good enough and with one simple act, they could be like God, but instead the seed of sin was planted and in an instant they gave up their God nature, falling from grace and corrupting their very souls and the souls of all who followed them.  The enemy's words are powerful and meant to hurt us, mislead us, and ultimately destroy us.  BUT, God's words are more powerful and are meant to build us up, encourage us, defend us, protect us, and ultimately give us hope and life.
      So, how does this question relate to us?  Satan tells us the lie, "“You are not good enough, God is holding back from you, you are missing out on life, you could have more!”   "Giving attention to these types of questions keep us from trusting God as the source for all that we need: peace, joy, contentment, abundance, and more. Because we believe that we are naked, flawed, empty, lacking, or whatever the case may be, we are tempted again and again to eat the forbidden fruit that’s only purpose is to move us further from our creator and to seek after the creation/illusion instead of the creator." [thechristianmediator.com]


       As for myself, I have been challenged by these two questions and the thoughts that were provoked within me.  "Where am I?"  I have to ask myself, 'who moved', when God feels far away.  When I get back to my devotions and bible verses, its always what I needed to hear.   "Who told you that you were naked?"  When I am sick or down in my spirits, its easy to see everyone else as having and living the good life.  I can entertain the lie of not having enough or that I'm not favored by God but the cure for that is to count my innumerable blessings.  Satan's lies are always crushed by God's truths, promises and blessings.  Count on God always more than His creations and you won't be disappointed.

How Low Can You Go??

         Today's blog is a reflective pause on my last month's journey of life and the circumstance of sickness.  From July 21 until August 14, my everyday life was a mixture of unfortunate situations, illness, depressing thoughts, and doubt for my earthly existence.  Oh, how often we are so quick to question God's goodness and purpose in our lives.. I know I'm guilty of it.  
        "Do you ever look at your circumstances and see no possible way the Lord could bring something good from them?  While we can’t always understand what God is doing, there is one thing we can do—trust Him to use our situation for His own glorious purposes.  When we view life from God’s perspective, every hardship becomes an opportunity to trust His good purpose, fully depend on Him, and respond in a manner that glorifies and exalts Christ."  [intouch.org]
       Philippians 1:29-30  "For to you it has been granted for Christ's sake, not only to believe in Him, but also to suffer for His sake, experiencing the same conflict which you saw in me, and now hear to be in me."
        Sometimes what we face and go through is a spiritual attack from the devil.  He brings us to our lowest points of vulnerability because he knows our weaknesses and preys on them to his advantage.  "Many today mock the idea of a literal devil, but Scripture clearly states that Satan is real, and his goal is to draw people away from God, to thwart His purposes, and to cause division.  Satan is a liar, and no one is immune to his attempts to deceive. Therefore, to stand firm against his lies, believers in Christ need to understand his strategies."  [intouch.org]
        "What is a satanic attack?  It’s a deliberate, willful assault by Satan upon an individual for the purpose of doing harm in the spirit, soul, or body, or all three. These attacks could come at any time or from anywhere. The devil tries to trip us up when we are at our weakest, and he knows exactly who or what to use as a lure. He often tempts us with what we do not need or should not have as he seeks to bring us down."  [intouch.org]
          As for myself, on my July 23rd blog, "Qualified For, But Doing What's Right", I had one of my greatest number of comments ever for a blog post.  So far, I've had 16 written comments for that specific blog post.  I was so encouraged to write more.  I actually wrote the blog during the beginning of my painful trial.  The devil then turned up the heat in my suffering so I fought back with a blog on "Patience and Pain" on August 5th.  I reached my lowest point when what I thought was over regarding my sickness, returned with a vengeance.  I still continued to seek the Lord's guidance for a blog but my will to encourage others needed it's own encouraging.  I was led to a friend's message of encouragement and decided to share that last week, "Truth Matters" by Jim Ehrhard.  When the devil comes after us, we MUST fight back and not let him destroy our souls, spirits, bodies, or missions.

Satan’s Strategies

• He directs our attention toward a need or desire. 
• The devil chooses times when we are the weakest.
• He creates doubt in our minds. Satan’s biggest target is the Word of God.
• Satan wants to get us in a debate.
• The devil uses deception as his key weapon.
• Satan’s goal is to destroy us. 

      I share these strategies of Satan so that we know what we are up against.  As Voddie Baucham says, "We are not seeing terrible things in our culture because we vote the wrong way, We are seeing terrible things in our culture because men love darkness rather than light."  We must recognize and turn from the devil's lies and turn towards God's Truth in his Word.  When we fill our minds with Scripture and live according to its principles, Satan’s schemes lose their power over us.

"Truth Matters" by Guest Writer-Jim Ehrhard

        Today's blog is from a missionary friend of mine, Jim Ehrhard.  I read the following in his quarterly update and agreed with all of it.  It is definitely worth sharing and since I've been sick, it's a great time for me to have a guest writer.  THANK YOU Jim for your wisdom and sharing with us all.

        What really matters? Black lives matter! Blue lives matter! All lives matter! While all these statements are true, one thing matters more - truth. And when truth no longer matters, nothing else will.

        For Christians, truth is an absolute. In 1 Corinthians 15, Paul speaks about the resurrection of Jesus. He presents a long list of witnesses who saw Jesus risen from the dead. He even includes a group over 500 people who saw Jesus at the same time. Paul tells us that, if the resurrection did not take place, then we are liars and we are above all men to be most pitied! Why? Because Truth matters!

       America today is experiencing a great crisis. It is not a racial crisis as the media would have you believe. It is a truth crisis. I lived through the race conflicts of the 60s and 70s and the ones today are very different. Those who protested in the 60s believed they were voices of truth. Martin Luther King Jr. articulated the foundations of that movement: "I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character." That dream is still my dream for America today.

But listen to what King warned about in his speech:

But there is something that I must say to my people, who stand on the warm threshold which leads into the palace of justice: In the process of gaining our rightful place, we must not be guilty of wrongful deeds. Let us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred. We must forever conduct our struggle on the high plane of dignity and discipline. We must not allow our creative protest to degenerate into physical violence. Again and again, we must rise to the majestic heights of meeting physical force with soul force.

          And King gave an important warning – a warning that needs to be voiced today. Without this understanding, those protesting racism today quickly become racists ….

The marvelous new militancy which has engulfed the Negro community must not lead us to a distrust of all white people, for many of our white brothers, as evidenced by their presence here today, have come to realize that their destiny is tied up with our destiny. And they have come to realize that their freedom is inextricably bound to our freedom. We cannot walk alone.

           But the crisis today is not racial. It is a crisis of truth. I grew up during the 60s and saw systematic racism everywhere. I lived in the South in the 70s when segregated restrooms and water fountains still existed and blacks were still not welcome in many white restaurants. And even though these things were not legal, you were warned not to cross those lines! After living back in the North for 2 decades, I returned to the Deep South in the 90s and found a world transformed from the 60s and 70s. Instead of public segregation, blacks and whites ate together in the same restaurants! And not only that, blacks and whites often sat at the same tables enjoying each other's company! The racism of the 60s seemed a distant past. I know there are exceptions - there always will be. I know we still have a way to go to eradicate racism. But the truth is we have made great progress as a nation on racial equality. The crisis today is whether or not truth will be allowed to be voiced.

          This is the scariest part of what is happening today. If truth is not allowed to be voiced, then only the loudest and most violent will have any voice. That is what is happening today. As a historian, I am shocked to see that the tactics used today are the same used by the “brown shirts” (Nazis) in the 1930s. They would follow those who did not support them into restaurants and publicly humiliate and intimidate them, and if that failed, they would resort to violence. They even required people to show their support of their movement or their businesses would be attacked. Today, America is losing the possibility of free speech, not by legislation (at least not yet), but by intimidation. In such an environment, truth is effectively silenced. And when truth no longer matters, nothing will matter.

But most important, how should believers respond? Here are some biblical principles to consider.

1.      Search diligently for the truth. I know this is not always easy and takes time. A number of years ago, I began to see that most of the news headlines were sensational or designed to mislead. For example, I would read a quotation attributed to someone on one media and then look to find the full text online. Most of the time, the headline quotation was taken out of context or even totally absent from the full text. I was alarmed by the complete dishonesty shown by journalists in reporting the news. Proverbs 2:4-6 tells us to look for wisdom like you would look for silver. Truth is precious. It might take you some time to search and find the truth, but the truth is worth it!

2.     Be careful to only share the truth. I am saddened that the media not only distorts the truth but intentionally hides it. It bothers me even more when Christians do the same to support their political views. As believers, we need to be sure that we share only the truth. I see many posts by Christians that also distort the evils of left and even attribute false quotes to various leaders. We need to remember that “The Lord detests lying lips” (Proverbs 12:22). Not just liberal ones but lying ones! That includes ours.

3.     Speak the truth – in love. In Ephesians 4:15, we are told to “speak the truth in love” so that we may “grow up into Him.” Make sure that even when you speak the truth, you speak it with grace and love. When Jesus came, he came, not just with truth but “full of grace and truth.” When we speak the truth, we need to be sure we do so with grace and truth! Our witness is affected when we respond back to angry people in anger. James 1:19 says, “Quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry. For the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.” Make sure you speak the truth – in love!

4.     Be humble. When you make a mistake, correct it. When you say something wrongly, apologize. Don’t think we as Christians are always right. We certainly do not act righteously all the time. I often tell people that I would rather be “righteous” than “right.” Truth matters – but so do our attitudes and actions. We need to share the truth, but always in love. In 1 John 1:8, we are reminded: “If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us.” We may think we have “the truth” on our side, but if we use it in a sinful manner, then are only deceiving ourselves – and, although the truth might be on our lips, “the truth is not in us!”

5.     Saturate yourself in God’s truth. Jesus prayed for his disciples, “Sanctify them in truth; thy Word is truth” John 17:17. There is no better way to stay focused on the truth than to stay grounded in God’s Word. It not only informs us what the truth is, it also checks our character and corrects us when we wander from the truth. Make this your prayer: “Teach me Your way, O Lord; I will walk in Your truth; unite my heart to fear Your name” (Psalm 86:11). Saturate yourself in God’s truth from God’s Word.

         What really matters? Truth – take truth out of the equation and you have nothing. Black lives definitely matter. But so blue lives, white lives, and all lives. That’s the truth. If we ever lose that, we lose everything.

Patience and Pain

May you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy. Colossians 1:11

“The strength of patience hangs on our capacity to believe that God is up to something good for us in all our delays and detours.”  John Piper

Luke 21:19 — “By your endurance [patience] you will gain your lives.”

Romans 2:7 — “To those who by patience in well-doing seek for glory and honor and immortality, God will give eternal life.”

Hebrews 6:12 — “Do not be sluggish but imitators of those who through faith and patience inherit the promises.”

          Today I celebrate the end of a short, but seemingly never ending, trial with my health.  Oh, yes it was hard to get through, painful, depressing, and challenging.  It definitely tested and required patience that was sometimes hard to muster, but I found it.  So this blog is about where do we look to during painful times and how to be patient through it all.

         "“Life is not a straight line leading from one blessing to the next and then finally to heaven. Life is a winding and troubled road. Switchback after switchback. And the point of biblical stories like Joseph and Job and Esther and Ruth is to help us feel in our bones (not just know in our heads) that God is for us in all these strange turns. God is not just showing up after the trouble and cleaning it up. He is plotting the course and managing the troubles with far-reaching purposes for our good and for the glory of Jesus Christ.”  [John Piper,]

         As for myself, patience is not my strong suit and coupled with pain, it can make me not myself.  I write blogs like these more for myself to learn and grow from, more than anyone intended for.  As much as I think I have strong inner strength, my lack in the patience department humbles me to acknowledge my weakness here.  As Margaret Thatcher once famously remarked: “I am extraordinarily patient, provided I get my own way in the end.

        "Patience demands tremendous inner strength.  For the Christian, this strength comes from God. That is why Paul is praying for the Colossians. He is asking God to empower them for the patient endurance that the Christian life requires. But when he says that the strength of patience is “according to [God’s] glorious might,” he doesn’t just mean that it takes divine power to make a person patient. He means that faith in this glorious might is the channel through which the power for patience comes."  [intouch.org]

        "Do we believe that God is working for us in the strangest and most painful turns of our lives?  The answer is: faith in God’s sovereign, future grace — the sovereign grace of God to turn the unplanned place and the unplanned pace into the happiest ending imaginable." 
        Okay, so this next quote may touch on some toes, as it did mine.  "Impatience is a form of unbelief. It’s what we begin to feel when we start to doubt the wisdom of God’s timing or the goodness of his guidance.  The opposite of impatience is a deepening, ripening, peaceful willingness either to wait for God where you are in the place of obedience, or to persevere at the pace he allows on the road of obedience — to wait in his place, or to go at his pace."  [intouch.org]  
         Woah, yes that's hard truth to swallow, huh?  Our impatience is a form of arrogance in that we think we know what's best for the situation and how quickly it should be over and done with.   In Psalm 130:5. How does the psalmist battle against impatience in his heart?  "I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, And in his word I hope."   We must turn to His Word and remind ourselves of his truths and promises that never change and are everlasting.  Romans 2:6-7  "God will repay each person according to what they have done. To those who by persistence in doing good seek glory, honor and immortality, he will give eternal life."
         We must trust God and be patient through all the trials and painful circumstances we face.  Just as Abraham trusted still at 100 years of age that “So shall your offspring be", even tho he faced the reality of his body weakening and I'm sure painful trials regarding his health.  Yet Romans 4:20-21 says "Yet he did not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God, but was strengthened in his faith and gave glory to God, being fully persuaded that God had power to do what he had promised."  What a blessed example we have been given to follow.
        Making a list of what you struggle with can help you identify whether it's truly important or not on an eternal scale.  My patience struggles are waiting on others for whatever reason, people who don't try to do better, not being able to do things myself, and the painful wait for an illness to end.  But God says for all of these, "In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."


          "Patience isn’t something we are born with or receive instantly at the moment of salvation. Rather, it is developed over time with God’s grace and our cooperation."
[C. Stanley]

Where We Need Patience: [intouch.org]

1] With Ourselves... “He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus” (Phil. 1:6).

2] With Others..."Our attitudes and behaviors toward people should mirror those of God, who has been so patient with us" (2 Peter 3:9)   and  "When we focus on how other people should change, we become blind to our own need for a transformed heart that loves others with patience, kindness, humility, unselfishness, and endurance" (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).

3] With God..."All impatience with people or circumstances is ultimately directed at God, who is sovereign over all things" (Psalm 103:19)

How to Develop More Patience:

1] Ask for it through prayer.

2] Think biblically about the purpose of your trials and circumstances.

3] Accept responsibility for developing patience and let the Holy Spirit empower you towards it.


James 1:12
Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love Him.